Hey, there. Itās me.
Itās a new year, that time when we all make promises to ourselves to do things better, to make different choices, to improve ourselves. Some call them āresolutions.ā I prefer to think of them as goals.
I generally make several goals as the year changes. Almost every year, for example, I set a goal to be more organized. Mixed results on that one. Sometimes I tell myself Iāll work out more. Again, mixed results.
This year, Iām pledging to speak out.
Itās been a while since Iāve written in this space. I can make up all sorts of excuses, but they donāt matter. I just didnāt write.
This year, Iām pledging to write about the things Iām speaking out about.
Hereās why:
Iām a Democrat. Iām a liberal. And I was ā I am ā an unabashed, unapologetic Hillary Clinton supporter. I like Hillary Clinton. I wanted her to win. I donated money to her campaign. I slapped a āClinton-Kaineā sticker on my car and planted a āClinton-Kaineā sign in our front yard.
And I was so convinced that Hillary Clinton would win that I ignored all the signs that pointed otherwise ā the anger of those who supported Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders, the fear among many whites of immigrants and minorities, the hatred of a certain segment of the American population for the Obama family and liberals in general.
I lived in a bubble, as so many of my fellow liberals did. I felt like a country who could elect Barack Obama twice could never elect someone like Donald Trump. And I truly thought that people would not vote against their own best interests.
But I didnāt speak out. I let others lift their voices, but I didnāt speak out. I didnāt want to hurt the feelings of my friends and relatives who are more conservative than I. I didnāt want them to feel uncomfortable around me, although I felt very uncomfortable when they spoke untruths about the Obamas and Clintons. I didnāt speak out.
So when Donald Trump won the Electoral College and it seemed like hatred suddenly oozed from every crevice in America, it felt like a punch in the gut. I never saw it coming.
And when people I know and like and maybe even love laughed at my visible discomfort and told me to āget over it,ā it hurt. It hurt. How could someone find delight in othersā pain? And how could someone who did ever be or have been my friend or relative? It hurt like hell.
Had I treated my more conservative friends in this manner when my candidate won in 2008 and 2012? I didnāt think I had.
So I didnāt speak out before Nov. 8. Iām not deluding myself into thinking that had I engaged more I could have changed the electionās outcome. But I didnāt really do much to effect that outcome except vote.
But starting today, Iām making a change.
I will speak out against intolerance and racism and xenophobia and hatred and bullying and just all around meanness. I will speak out against these things when I witness them. I will speak out against these things so that I can stand in solidarity with those who are disenfranchised and mistreated and look differently than I do and come from different backgrounds and places. I will speak out so that my children know that bullies will not prevail in our neighborhood, in our town, in our state, in our country, in our world.
I will speak out so that I can sleep at night knowing that I tried to make a difference. And I will speak out in this space as often as I can because thatās one small thing that I know I can do to try to make the world a better place.
Some folks who read this blog might be offended. They might stop reading. I hope they donāt because I think we need to try to understand other points of view. You donāt have to agree, but you should be able to respectfully listen to someoneās ideas and viewpoints.
I invite civil discussion and want to hear what others have to say. If youāre one of those readers who disagrees with my views, I invite you to stay but understand if you canāt or wonāt. If you leave, Iāll be sad.
But I wonāt stop speaking out.
Please stick around.